actually.. i like talking to strangers because if i fuck up and make things weird, i’ll probably never see them again. unlike the buttholes who ostracized me during middle school and high school.
i feel like i’m a social butterfly now lol it’s weird because i’ve always struggled with getting comfortable just being around new people, but now it’s kind of easy (but still a little scary). within my first fifteen minutes of being on campus, i approached and befriended three random strangers and i’m proud of myself for that. then every time i see old classmates, i get really happy and friendly. i don’t just smile and wave anymore either! i actually talk to them about how they’re doing almost instinctively. i think it’s mostly because no one knows each other so i don’t think i’m interfering in cliques.
i know this isn’t a really big deal, but these small victories shot up my confidence so much.
my parents are super nice so they’re letting a friend of theirs stay with us until she gets back on her feet. but i caught her in the kitchen washing dishes???? with no gloves on???? and my dad let her????
so i basically kicked her out of the kitchen super kindly so she could relax, watch TFC, and go on Facebook like how guests are supposed to.
even though tita myrna probably feels like she owes us since we’re letting her stay, doesn’t mean that we should expect her to do anything. even if she insists. good hosts are supposed to be the super annoying ones who give you too much food to eat and let you lounge around not knowing what to do with yourself.
people r so dumb like what r u, communist????
she is a guest in our house and we should make her feel like one!!!
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HOW TO STAY IN LOVE:
1. Tell your partner that you love them every day. You are not only reminding them, you are primarily reminding yourself. They say that the people who say ‘I love you’ the most are the happiest. And they’re right. Get creative: find more ways to say it. I love you. Je t’aime. Te amo. My love. My one and only. Love you. Te quiero.
2. Don’t forget to have more low-key dates now and then. Sure, going to a fancy hotel restaurant is nice, but the next day you might be aware of all the crystals missing from your chandelier. There’s a certain comfort in picking up your loved one from the airport or eating at a nearby food court. It’s like saying, ‘Hey, you turn a regular experience in to an exciting one. With you, there’s no such thing as unhappy.’
3. The best moment to consolidate your relationship is when our loved one is going through a difficult time. For some, that is a time of high tension, but it really doesn’t have to be. When your partner is down, you learn to make their life brighter from the inside instead of trying to change external factors. You can’t control the fact that they got fired from their job or that their uncle passed away—but you can control what you bring to their life. What better excuse to be a bundle of sunshine?
4. Make cheating as unthinkable as incest. If you are truly in love, you will not be able to kiss someone else without tasting your loved one’s tears as they stain your lips. You will not be able to take your clothes off with someone else without feeling like a field ripped bare to its soil. Make cheating a dealbreaker for you and assume that it is for your partner too.
5. Make their desires your own. If they want to go to college in a different state, don’t sabotage them. If they fantasize about you in a certain way, turn their desires to reality. If they like how you look in a dress and you prefer jeans, wear dresses more often. You don’t have to change yourself in order to make compromises. You don’t have to lose yourself while trying to find your loved one.
6. See their side of the story. Even if it’s 2 a.m. and they’re accusing you of things you never thought you were capable of doing, sit quiet for a moment and listen to what they’re actually saying. Let go of your defensive wall and think about the impact your actions has on your loved one. Always empathize.
7. Give your loved one random presents. If you’re going to the mall, pick up a flirty gift. If you’re on vacation, buy them a souvenir that means something to them. If you’re going to Starbucks, order their favorite drink. Little gestures go a long way.
8. Dream about the future—but realistically. Don’t tell your loved one you can’t wait to get married after five months, but give them hints that you’re committed. Examples can be making plans for your anniversary, preparing surprises for Valentine’s Day, and letting them know you want to go to the next step. ‘I know we’ve slept together, but you’ve never stayed the night. I’d like to try that.’ It’s not about going fast—it’s about going slow but doing so with passion.
9. Spice things up constantly. Keep both yourself and your partner on your tiptoes by going to new places, trying new positions, changing up your dynamics, using new idioms, etc. Put the two of you in new territory so that you can feel like you’re always learning something new about each other. This way, it will be difficult to ever feel like strangers, because you will have gotten accustomed to watching each other grow, change, and be exposed to new situations.
10. Get to know where they come from. It’s useless trying to love someone without considering their family, background, and past experiences. Slowly break away any boundaries between the two of you and let yourself see even the ugliest parts of your loved one. A realistic relationship is almost guaranteed to function while a superficial one isn’t. You can’t love someone independently of their environment.
remember: if you’re attending a school that gives you a .edu email address, you can upgrade your amazon.com account to prime for free by going on and choosing the college/student membership. that means you get the prime 2-day shipping and even some textbook discounts (not to mention AFAIK you enjoy the amazon instant access for free for the duration of your edu email being active)
well at least someone is looking out for students
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Where I told you
I love you
|—||Charlotte Eriksson, Empty Roads & Broken Bottles; in search for The Great Perhaps (via californiagirlwearingpearls)|